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these all seem normal and reasonable

Holy crap. I'm not the only one who is instantly irritated by tangled hangers? "Instantly" is not an overstatement.

Oh, hi. You are speaking directly to me this morning. Thank you.❤

I figured out I'm autistic myself, I had to suggest to psychiatrists that I might be autistic, they said that diagnosis was correct, all of them said that. I'm 65 years old, retired, I own a small business and am financially in good shape. Autism means being smarter than everyone around you, and treated like an idiot. I signed up for something, but it said you were suspended through July. We autistic people do deserve better. Corporate culture hates us. It's a drag.

To say it in a positive connotationed way: I was always interested in almost everything 😅

I couldn't choose either, don't think I'm autistic..or am I ?! :-)

Where is autism in its higher spectrums a drawback

I had the same thing… my daughter (4th grade) was being bullied … she discussed unaliving. I was completely unheard. I am homeschooling her now… it’s a little better but… I think - I can’t just protector her all her life… maybe I can and should fml we’re autistic. I have the same experience with pain I am not believed (I feel) I’m a Pisces too. You are amazing this is all really hard! I take one day at a time… right now I made a mistake at work a serious mistake if I lose my job again what will happen? We lose everything probably omg I’m going to stop how do I get into one of your groups?

I always no what to say...10mins later

If I find a new song I LOVE, I generally listen to it on repeat for a couple of days. The latest one was E. Hyuk's cover of Chandelier which I had on repeat for 3 days while working. Before that it was "Angel PT2" for a few days. Before my latest pregnancy, I kid you not, I had "Stay Alive" by Jungkook on repeat for over two weeks straight while working, it helped me be more productive. Etc, this goes back to my childhood. My sister hated me for it when we were teens... *not diagnosed but have adhd and considering getting evaluated for autism as well*

100% not alone in this. ❤

Yes! Thank you for putting a name to it. I was told it was just because of my autism without explaining further, especially when I know other autistic people don't have this lol

This is why you have a phone in your pocket so you can Google things in the middle of a conversation. I'm actually not joking. I do that. Neurodivergent friends appreciate it, because they want to know too. I'm sure neurotypicals would find it rude, but I prefer to have neurodivergent friends.

Clean Up. What? Where? The heck where to Start?

Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes!!! Dysregulating seemingly spontaneously in common everyday activities is one thing my NT wife has the hardest time to grasp. "You were fine a moment ago, and suddenly you stopped working." The worst thing for me is hanging up a bunch of picture frames and running out of nails, or loosening some screws from a bookshelf to disassemble it and suddenly one of the screws are of a different type so you need to get fetch another screwdriver. It can wreck my day.

I am very literal. I need detailed instructions and then I can guess off that afterwards however, if you just tell me to go do something I've never done, I need specific instructions

I find that people normally don't listen to what I say and everyone talks over me, I hate when people talk in circles or riddles. Don't tell me a certain time we are doing sometjing and then be late.

Yas. Input. Need input. I crave - to the point of unknown, subconscious, distraction - new, interesting, data. Is nice to have the ability to hold a conversation with practically anyone - at any given time, about a WHOLE heck of a lot of random, ungainly, data. But I still can't people.

Purple is my favorite color

Good morning to you (here in the UK anyway!) Brief watcher, first time commenter, recently diagnosed at 61. I have three points about this topic and my way of trying to deal with it. 1. I recognise that investigating things and occurrences sometimes takes time and I allow myself the space to just say “nope, don’t have enough info yet but over time I will keep looking and then I will have my answer”. 2. When I think that things aren’t going as they are supposed to I question closely where I have got that assumption from and how valid it really is. Is it mine or has it been foisted on me by Typicals who needed a quick answer? Open mindedness seems to offer me better information collection leading to my answer rather than the Received Explanation. Which it actually may turn out to be of course. 3.Then, rather than sit locked into ‘should’, I investigate, consider and meditate upon what actually happened. Which leads me back to point 1. My particular long term ‘thing’ is why does it take a length of time for something I have put down to fall over/off? Gravity, Friction, Inertia etc are (relatively!) constant and a property of the thing so why the time lag? Best regards, Cloud

Not knowing about something doesn't necessarily dysregulate me but things that don't work the way they are supposed to can definitely send me from 0 to 60 very quickly. What I have wondered is if people on the autism spectrum have a greater need to know how things work than neurotypical people. Especially as a child, I wanted to know how everything worked because I naively assumed that if I knew, I would be able to Master Life.

Yes! That's why we get into things that are interesting and we want to learn more. It happens even in the middle of a movie. You HAVE TO KNOW about the historical background or other information before you continue with the film! 😂

Literally scored all of these. When I was little ( to this day I remain undiagnosed as AuDHD as only my ADHD and Bipolar have been acknowledged, sadly - but I know for a fact I’m autistic ) I would constantly feel terrible if I left anything on my lunch tray at school because “What if the last half of my cheeseburger would feel abandoned and lonely if I threw it out?” I still have some of these thoughts at times a lot, they’ve always been there. I am HIGHLY highly sensitive to any perceived injustice. I did not want to go out anywhere in 2020 because it was just too much negativity around me and would cry uncontrollably if I saw school fights unfold in my childhood. I would not play like other kids. I would read long chapter books like Inkheart in 3rd grade. I liked being alone, but also felt strange being alone. It was very very odd and I did not have ANY stable friends at all until High School and none at all in Elementary. Those that pretended to pity me and be my ‘friend’ bullied me and constantly made me feel stupid and lesser, so yeah. Autistic experience in a nutshell.

Yes. Unclear instructions that need to work out quick, stuff that needs to be understood, "tell me more"... I alienated friends with "c'mon, teach me at least the basics!" Not everyone, well, barely someone understands that this is trying to get those informations while cherishing the time with them 😅 Or, not being able to think through what I'm about to do. "Just do it!" - Nawww, I need to think about it first, and keep track of the steps, and ... 😅 Oh, and repeat failure of stuff that just got repaired. Total mental explosion, anxiety, discreet rage, and usually a very loud F-word xD

+momonthespectrum *I run into other adversities on the job at 胡桃河町日系油童教會 Japanese Christian Church of Walnut Creek (CA, USA), a member Congregation o' the 東宣北米神聖教會 OMS* (viz., Oriental Missionary Society) *Holiness Church of North America.* E.g. when a new microphone needs calibration; both Lecterns are slated for bidirectional condenser, or at least ribbon, mics.

Totally, although not so much with the inanimate objects, but when people don't do what they should, how they should, it disregulates me for days.

I get dis-regulated when I am out and about observing the way we have set up our society. The not-human friendly nature of our lives. The constant anxiety of society falling apart because it has no strong foundations, the daily grind of survival in a world set up by greed and power. That has me freaking out regularly. We could have created such a safe space for us all and instead the power hungry stole it from us all. The Goose now has no common. Our culture and society sucks! So many are not coping with it and falling through the cracks. I'm one of them. Sorry bit of a rant. My heart is racing now and anxiety ballooning in my chest. Deeeeep breath.... Thanks Taylor x

For me, if someone says something that I've either not heard correctly, or misunderstood or it doesn't make sense. I become deaf from then on. I have to interrupt them, ask for clarification so they can continue. It's very frustrating.

But what is a stim I should have?

Wow- I’m 1.5 years into self-diagnosis, and it’s been a while since I’ve had an “ah ha!” moment. I definitely relate to this!!

I think you did so well with this video. I wonder if you’re familiar with response-based practice? I think you’d like their approach!

if I care, yes!

Oh my gosh, the hangers thing, yes!

Technology giving inaccurate, incomplete, or totally vague error messages is so bad for me

Omg super helpful! I'm learning game development, and I'm so disregulated and that's hindering my learning! When I was young, I learned this stuff because of that desire to learn how things worked. I learned a ton of that, and now when I use the game dev software, it's just being angry that it's needlessly confusing and poorly designed! (giggle) Now I understand! I'd already kinda figured out I needed to tap into my younger self approach to dig in deeper, rather than my older self that was annoyed the software is so confusing. But now I know these two sides are actually autistic traits! Lol Now I know!

You're absolutely not alone

I feel this way when I don’t know how to engage in a conversation because of lack of knowledge. My best friend is constantly telling me to just ask… I’m like I was the little girl who came home in tears on the first day of Kindergarten because I didn’t already know the pledge of allegiance… and I’m old enough that we didn’t really have actual preschool, so not many other kids knew it either… I just felt like I was supposed to already know everything and someone having to teach me can dysregulate me.

I start making velociraptor noises when this happens. Goes well with the T-Rex arms 😂

This happens to my husband a lot. It affects me most when im already tired or in pain, bit not as often as him.

You are not alone! I get hung up on processing when someone else gets stuck on something that is really simple and I can't understand why they can't understand something that simple. I'll provide a few simple answers to it and hope they don't keep asking questions so I can have some down time to get back on track. I mean, really, how do they just not understand something this simple???!! Argh!!

I have been suspecting I might be autistic and I need to do research before bringing it up with my parents but, onetime my dad brought me to a WWE concert and one of the final matches I was breaking down, there were fireworks when a wrestler came out, we were sitting in the seats where a line of lights would flash in my eyes, and I got to the point where I needed to hide in my hoodie, shut my ears, close my eyes as hard as I could, and cry my heart out. Luckily my dad noticed this and he asked if I wanted to go, I agreed and he asked me if I was ok. I jokingly said that I cried multiple times ( which I did ) what would that be considered, meltdown or shutdown. And pls no hate for not being diagnosed with autism, and talking about it but I would like some feed back :)

Yes 💯 that's me everyday with my hangers and I get so overwhelmed that I end up throwing them away because it wouldn't go back on the rack and gave me a hard time so I'm just done with it frustrated. I also get fascinated by photos I couldn't understand how can a photo capture an image of someone , someone tried explaining it to me and after I felt more confused and was like , no this is still impossible to capture beings where we can see our selves it's like it's stealing our souls what kind of magic is this🤔😂 long story short I still don't understand how a camera can get our picture🤷🏽‍♀️😊

the part about things not working how they should/i think they should/i want them to is so so relatable and it's also such an annoying combination with me being dyspraxic bc i think often i get upset about things going the wrong way bc of dyspraxia and this is so pointless bc I can't really do much about this but it's still so so irritating and dysregulating

When there's so much exciting information and so little time... I get so upset when something should work and you knew it was working and it was working a second ago, but it is not working now... I get upset with people who don't care about how they are affecting people, or are purposefully being difficult. I also struggle with asserting myself and taking up room to ask for patience or help... the realization of how flawed everyone is helps me forgive, but I don't really trust people to have the capacity to help how I need to be.

May I be blunt and off topic ? but I feel you have the most attractive eyes I have ever seen.👀

Definitely not just you!

This is very me. I have a corporate job where I have to deal with licensing regulations for different cities, counties, etc. And it’s really frustrating because every municipality has different ones, so something that I’ve been taught is the standard for my work might have many exceptions to the rule and I end up having to redo stuff CONSTANTLY. I get disregulated all the time, and then I feel silly because my coworkers all seem like it’s no big deal to them. Also, I have 3 orange cats, so now I gotta know what’s up with their ears?? I def also relate to tuning out at the vet bc I’m focusing too hard on one thing she said lol.

I make bacon, an egg, and toast just about every morning. If I'm making my egg and accidentally break the yolk...I might as well just explode at that point.